January 2012
A glass can only spill what it contains.
I feel redundant elaborating on this since I think it’s a perfect short sweet analogy that really says it all..
But basically what this means, for those who don’t understand, is that someone can only hurt you as much as you let them.
If you decide not to invest anything in anyone, no trust or expectations, then you won’t really be affected if they screw up. In contrast, if you DO invest a ton into someone, then you’re going to be crushed when/if they let you down.
I try very hard to remind myself of this phrase.. All the time. Because investing emotion into others isn’t really a conscious decision, it just kind of happens and we don’t realize it until we get hurt.
But thinking of it in this way reminds me that the power does ultimately lie in my hands as to whether I allow someone else to hurt me.. Although avoiding that isn’t always possible.
I try to see people as glasses. Tall glasses, short glasses, dirty glasses, thick glasses, shiny glasses, cracked glasses, you get the gist.
And I think to myself—Do I want to risk pouring some of myself into you?
It simplifies things quite a bit I guess.. At least as far as premeditated game plans go.
Alas, things don’t usually happen as planned you know?
For some reason I’m bored with the concept of safe bets…
But that’s okay because it always brings me back to wondering what type of glass I am.
And how I want to be the best glass I can be despite the state of everyone else.
what if in full metal alchemist instead of putting the little brother in a robot they put him into a plate of noodles and they called him alfredo just to be a dick and everynight he cried into his fettucine whispering “my name is alphonse”
